Dear San Domenico,
Our reflection this week comes from the teachings of Thich Nhat Hanh, a Buddhist monk and peace activist:
When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. If we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce.
Blaming does not help, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change.
The heart is like a garden. It can grow compassion or fear, resentment or love. What seeds will you plant there?
Director of Philosophy, Ethics, and World Religions